Ever wonder what social media says about you?

Have you ever asked the Oracle (The Wisdom of the Oracle) about who you are? You know, type in your first and last name on the internet and then select the search option. I thought to myself that I am pretty well hidden from the public eye, off social media and maybe even almost off-grid. And yet this is what I found:

  • 15 Profiles on Facebook
  • 7 LinkedIn profiles (one is actually mine!)
  • 1 Twitter account
  • 1 YouTube account
  • 1 Pinterest account
  • A French-English translation service
  • Results from the 1940 census
  • Manuscript preparations for a publication of an economic book
  • Results from a phone tracker
  • Divorce records
  • Drakensburg Northern trail run results

So let me sum it up for you:

According to social media, I appear to be a divorced individual, born in the earlier half of the 20th century (as I was part of the 1940 census). An avid trail runner, fluent in French and of course English. For this I offer a translation service (I do hope I make some money from this!). Apparently I also write, despite having a publisher. All in the name of Economics. You know, take risks and then figure out the fine print later (excuse the pun)! I am also an avid user of social media tools despite my age. Maybe even important or popular enough to be easily located in the so-called yellow pages.


I have to admit that only one point is true and quite frankly, I love to be the me as I am today, than the me social media (Social Media or Social Murder) has concocted me to be.

Worth some looking into!

Social media or Social murder

I came across a blog titled Goodbye to Facebook. It was written in the form of a letter, addressed to Facebook as if it was the ending of a long and intimate relationship. Amusing at times, to the point and cleverly written. I had to leave a comment which went something like this:

Social media maims, and often destroys so many relationships and even lives. If used, it needs to be held within strict and clearly defined boundaries. Used only when required. I love the fact that more and more people are realizing that every now and again if you just raise your gaze up from the screen you are looking at, you will see a beautiful life right in front of you. It may be a garden of roses. It may be your husband who just needs you to notice him. It may be your child wishing for your whole hearted attention, just for a moment. It may simply be a moment on your own, in quiet nature, connecting your soul with your maker.

I spent many years interacting on Facebook and eventually said my goodbye officially towards the end of 2018. My interactions became fewer and fewer over these last couple of years. While contemplating saying goodbye to social media in general, I found myself asking a number of questions:

  • What if I miss out on that one piece of news?
  • What if someone passes on?
  • What if I’m invited somewhere and dont pitch?
  • What would my friends and connections think?
  • Maybe I should just leave a little information available just in case someone needs to find me?

And during all this contemplation, Facebook still waits a period of time before actually deleting your profile, trying to get you to reconsider your so-called rash decision and revert back with your profile.

I’m sure we all have many questions and moments like that. For me though, on a personal note social media became more of a social mine field and any wrong footing is sure to blow you to smitherines. Pink mist! Your soul becoming the story of the murdered life portrayed on the media.

Yes, strong words I know. But I don’t want to miss out on those moments of reality. Maybe blogging is a form of social media too, but here I find myself being more real with no intention to impress. Here, I have a goal to save a life so to say and not be a murderer of social interactions.

I do believe that if strict and defined boundaries are implemented, social media may be an effective tool for corporate involvement and marketing. However personally, I stick to my gut and would rather treasure the reality of being present, in the moment, not worrying about having to get that perfect picture to post on Instagram for the world (who doesn’t really care) to see.

#Just my opinion!