I love the Friends series. Bought the entire original DVD set. But I know there are many out there, millions perhaps, who have Facebook accounts with hundreds and possibly thousands of friends. But let’s be honest with ourselves. No one has thousands of friends, not Donald Trump, not Taylor Swift and not even the Queen of England. Quite frankly, it’s an epitome of disillusionment (read more on Social Media or Social Murder).
But it feels so good, right?
The problem I have with this, is that friendship implicates a relationship. And a relationship means investment. Investment in time, effort, heartfelt sorrows and joys, trust and support. It also means taking a risk! It certainly is not something you just land. I mean just look at a marriage. It takes work, all the time, 24/7. There is no half-time. There should be no end (read more on The Currency of Trust). But when in for the long haul, committed to growth, the investment returns in multiples of multiples squared. And no, not physical currency. This is a currency one cannot set a value to.
So my question is how does one have so many friends? Even the cast of Friends really just had each other, six of them.
I am proud to say that I can count my friends on only my fingers! They are the ones I want to be around at any given time. I do not need any more. And the most beautiful part about this is that even though I may not physically see them for months or even years at a time, we simply pick up from where we left off. There is no resentment, anger, bitterness, gossip or even doubt in the friendship foundations that were laid. It’s as good as a miracle.
Over the past few weeks I have had the privilege of catching up with some real deal good ole friends and it’s amazing how it makes my heart so happy. Even though there have been many life hardship stories shared and lived, there’s still nothing better than just being together. I honestly believe in what Socrates once said:
Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm and constant.
It sounds like a hymn, a warning to heed. It’s like falling in love. Something we should indeed cherish and protect and sing out loud at the top of our voices. Hold close to our hearts and never let go.
So here’s to friendship, as Eleanor Roosevelt so aptly said:
Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart.