WARNING: Not to be read by the faint hearted or easily offended.
This past week travelling home on the train, I landed up sitting with three rather large Afrikaans men. Decent enough to be classified as gentlemen and not overly in your face, which is not something one wants on a busy stuffy train, late in the afternoon. What really got me though, was that all three of these men had those large bellies that hung heavily into their laps, uncomfortably so. To me they were large boeps. Exceedingly off-putting.
As a woman I have to say, I love it when my man is in good shape, toned and taking care of himself. It really is important and it’s also important for that chemistry that plays such a critical part in intimacy.
I know this might be a difficult message and probably not the first time you have heard this, but I’m just going to put it out there. If you are not looking after yourself; if your partner, husband or wife (ladies we are certainly not off the hook here either) does not find you attractive in whatever way; if you are not exercising; if you are not paying attention to your body and what it needs to sustain a healthy life, then we can consider ourselves selfish, lost to bodily greed.
I’m not saying we have to be super models, sleek, slim and with a six pack – although that would be amazing! Carrying belly fat is a risky business and can lead to many medical emergencies and life long financially draining chronic conditions. Remember, belly fat does not only refer to what one can see and feel on the outside, it goes much deeper, to a level called visceral fat. It’s the fat that surrounds your organs and can eventually suffocate and strangle you from the inside out. In essence you become your own murderer. Guilty of homicide.
Not only does one become a burden on society but more so a burden on one’s family. This in itself places unnecessary pressure and stress on the ones that truly love you.
So let’s be honest with ourselves – we should know ourselves well enough to know whether we are where we should be or not. Trust me, there is no judgement here. I often find myself slipping and it’s really hard work getting back to that before place. It takes so much effort, sweat and often tears. We rationalise ourselves into thinking that tomorrow is the answer. Tomorrow will sort everything out. Tomorrow I will eat better, exercise harder. Sound familiar?
And this is where I have to say that I absolutley love the Nike branding:
Just do it!
So how do we do it? Try use these simple tips:
- Stop making excuses.
- Stop procrastinating. Just get out there.
- Eat a healthy diet. And no, healthy does not mean convincing yourself that a salad and a coke go together, all in perfect balance. It’s ok sometimes to have a treat, without feeling guilty.
- Exercise – that’s a given. It doesn’t have to be marathons, just something daily like taking the stairs instead of the elevator!
- Keep portion checks in size. Our eyes are often way too big for our stomachs. Your stomach is only as big as your closed fist, so keep that as a measurement guide.
- Stay away from sugary drinks and excessive alcohol. Limit these to special occasions, again without feeling guilty!
- Be accountable to someone other than yourself. It helps having someone who can keep you on the straight and narrow, provide a little motivation and discipline, and joins you in your quest to be healthier.
Well that’s what they say – whoever they are. It takes time and commitment. But then again, what doesn’t? No one said life would be easy and no one has ever been given a manual for life, other than the Bible. No point in thinking about it any longer. Make the decision and do it today!