After contemplating and reflecting on this past week and what I’ve learnt, I kept coming back to what my husband and I promised each other on our wedding day. Maybe it’s because this month we will be celebrating our second wedding anniversary, a cotton anniversary, or maybe it’s because we’ve had to work through a number of challenging things of late.
Whatever it may be, today I wish to share what my husband and I promised to each other. I am sure we have all heard and read of many different vows, some truly traditional, some deeply emotional and some modernised specifically for the characters joining together as one. However, despite how it is said they all take on a very sincere and solemn approach that should not be taken lightly.
And so, after the pledges and the ‘I do’s‘ were made before God and our guests of honour (family and friends), our vows went like this:
I take you to be mine, loving you now and as you grow into all that God intends. I will love you when we are together and when we are apart; when our lives are at peace and when they are in turmoil; when I am proud of you and when I am disappointed in you; in times of rest and in times of work. I will honour your goals and dreams and help you to fulfill them. I say these things believing that God will be with us through it all.
And then we gave our rings to each other:
I give you this ring as a symbol of our marriage. With my body I honour you, all that I am I give to you, and all that I have I share with you with the help and guidance of our Lord and Saviour.
To this day, I still feel the intensity of what we promised. Not as a weight that bears heavily on my shoulders, but as a beautiful way of life, shared with the very one that will be a witness to my life.
I clearly remember having a little difficulty placing the ring on my husband’s finger, struggling to get it past his knuckle. We knew full well it fit perfectly. I guess while still trying to remember and repeat the vows after our pastor, and push the ring on, knowing everyone was watching, it was just too much and something had to give. We did. We all laughed.
I guess marriage can be a scary concept. It can cramp your style and challenge everything you ever thought was right or wrong. Plans sometimes go as scheduled and sometimes not. Words are sometimes used in jest to mask revealing that one part you want to retaliate on. Sometimes the ring fits snug and sometimes it’s easier to leave it off. But marriage is not the easy road.
It is the road less traveled, an adventure that requires two committed hearts, determined to honour the other. And when the foundation is securely laid and the promises are made, we enter into a supernatural realm and in essence stand on holy ground. That should be honoured. For there is nothing that comes close to being married and sharing your life with another human being, as they change and grow and become.
Do you remember your solemn vows made? Have you kept them true and honest?